Thank you, everyone, for your concern and prayers for Logan. Having that kind of support is just what I needed and made it easier for me to proceed.
Yesterday we went to see the specialist. First Glad was going to go alone with Logan, but I felt I needed to be there since I am with him most of the time, so we all ended up going. We got there early to get in line since, like with most doctors here, there was no actual appointment time but it is first come, first serve. As it was we had to wait over an hour for our turn.
I was well-prepared with stuff to occupy the kids since I knew this would not be a child-friendly place. They sat on the benches and looked at books, then had a snack, listened to daddy’s 1-minute stories, ran around the waiting area (since they had missed their trip to the park), and found another child to play with. They danced and sang till I finally pulled out my backup activity – paper and crayons. Then they all (the other boy included) sat and drew, or had daddy draw for them, until it was time to go in.
We 5 crammed into the tiny office but the doctor’s first request, after greeting Logan, was that Glad take the kids out since he felt we shouldn’t discuss Logan in front of him. I hadn’t expected that but was impressed by this doctor’s consideration for Logan’s feelings.
I had a fairly long talk with him, laying out most of what I wrote in the last post. I began with his prematurity and motor skill delays, then his behavior and how he wasn’t able to stay in school. He mostly listened as I tried to remember all the pertinent stuff, then he asked some questions. His professional diagnoses is that Logan has ADHD, not autism. I asked about the difference since so many of the things Logan does pointed to autism. He said that an autistic child won’t interact with you directly, but when Logan came in he shook hands and greeted the doctor, so autism is not a concern. Whew!
So now we have to go to another doctor to get a psycometry done, whatever that is. Then we bring the results back and plan how to proceed in treating his behavior. They want to put together things we can do at home to help calm him down and control his behavior; medication being a last resort. We don’t want to medicate him if it can be avoided.
This doctor also gave us the name of a school that deals with children with these kinds of difficulties, and it just happens to be in our neighborhood. We’ll be visiting them too.
So that is how things stand now. More updates will come as we find out more. If anyone knows first-hand about dealing with ADHD or if you can direct me to some specific info on it, I’d appreciate it.